One afternoon, I was sitting with my parents having a usual conversation. Suddenly the topic of family property, it’s distribution among the siblings and all came. It was a usual chat nothing to worry about. During the conversation, my father decided how he will divide his wealth among my two brothers and get me married. I was wondering why he is only worried about getting me married and not counting me with my brothers for the property divide. I just asked not thinking much, what will you give to me. He smiled and just said we will get you married. I was like will you not get my brothers married!!!
I am the most brilliant in the family and have a job and earn for myself. I too buy things for my mom, dad, and family more than my brothers do. It was the day till when I thought that for my mother and father I am the same as my brothers and they do not do any differences between a girl and a boy.
At some point in time after thinking a lot, I convinced myself that this may be because they give a lot of dowries which can be considered as a part of the property (maybe!!). Then how will you defend force-less dowry being wrong practice?? Don’t know still thinking. Maybe it is the share of the boy to which she gets married from his parental property which is her money.
My mother wanted to buy some clothes, so she asked my father for money. Instead of giving it to her, he started scolding her why she didn’t bring any money from her parents. It is his money. She is just a waste and wastes money. To this my mother never replies. She just kept quiet.
My mother is the most educated among her generation. Even more educated than my father. But she wasn’t allowed to job due to family pressure and responsibilities. Had she was allowed to do a job, things would have been very different.
This took me back to my previous perception, will the property of the boy I will get married to be mine??? Will the property of my father is mine?? Will my mother’s property……. oh sorry!! she don’t even have of her own. Whose property is mine.
The conclusion is that for a boy his father’s money is his money. His wife’s father’s money is his money (in the form of dowry). The money his wife earns is mostly his money. The money he earns is definitely his money. But, for a girl, there might be some possibility that some part of the money she has earned (if she has earned) is her money if her husband permits.
Note: In the current time, however, things are changing and should change. The article is not meant to hurt anyone. Just a perception that used to belong for some sections at some point in time.